Lifestyle Men get preoccupied. Don’t confuse that with a loss of passion for the relationship he shares with you.
Has this ever happened to you?

You meet someone attractive and engaging. The spark of interest leads quickly to romantic attraction and mutual desire.

There is a special connection the just feels right. It’s like you’re on the same wavelength. Then, he begins to withdraw.

He seems to be pulling away. He’s preoccupied and seems to have no desire to share his inner thoughts with you the way he did before. During conversation, his responses reflect less attention to what you are saying. At the worst moments it can even seem as if you are alone while in his presence.

Why does this happen? Why do men so often seem to pull away after initially demonstrating the ability to connect with you in a genuine way?

This happens because men are wired differently when it comes to motivation. He is genetically designed to narrowly focus his attention on the most important “mission” at hand.

That doesn’t mean he stopped loving you. It means some other “mission” has temporarily distracted him. But here’s where things get messy.

Because he seems to be pulling away, your instincts tell you something is wrong.

This naturally causes you to feel a bit insecure. It also brings up negative emotions that could lead you to be short with him and possibly even passive-aggressive.

Your emotional state is reflecting the underlying question, “Why are you doing this to me?”

Meanwhile, his emotional state carries this command: “Reduce distractions and focus on taking care of the problem that has come up.” And the key here is this. The “problem that has come up” most likely has nothing to do with you.

Both genetics and environment have reinforced a tendency for men to be mission-minded. When a man’s mission is going well, he feels playful energy. During these times he will be emotionally engaged and genuinely interested in even the small details of your life.

The problem comes when he faces unusual difficulties that threaten the progress of one of his “missions” in life.

Unlike women, men are less likely to consider a relationship as a mission. Relationships are the fun things you do when you’re not working on your mission.

So when storms arise at work, in his business, or in other goals he is pursuing, he will become very distracted. You may even get the feeling he is only spending time with you because he feels obligated to.

You may be a top priority in his life, but it won’t feel that way when he gets preoccupied with one of his missions. This is a common root cause of painful experiences for women who invest their lives in men.